The possibilities of conflict management based on Trinitarian relations and the model of incarnation, using the tools of contextual pastoral care and motivational interviewing, with regard to congregational pastoral care

In congregational life, pastors often face situations where conflict creates a deep divide between members of the community. This paper explores how a deeper understanding and resolution of such situations can be facilitated by tools drawn from systematic theology, attachment theory, contextual pastoral care, and the methodology of motivational interviewing. The theological foundations—especially the doctrines of the incarnation, atonement, and the relational model of the Trinity—reveal how the realities of sin and redemption shape human relational dynamics. Attachment theory helps uncover how childhood attachment patterns influence adult conflict resolution responses. Within the framework of contextual pastoral care, the tension between constructive and destructive entitlement, as well as the dynamics of forgiveness and exoneration, prove essential for identifying underlying, often unconscious relational burdens. The structure of motivational interviewing offers a path to stimulate change and foster joint action. This paper does not aim to establish a concrete methodology, but rather presents an integrative approach that reaches the root of conflicts and supports enduring transformation, healing of relationships where possible, and the renewal of congregational unity. Conflict resolution takes place in the hope that the Holy Spirit can awaken and shape within individuals the desire and the strength to move toward forgiveness.